Talk to the people that model and do really well at the thing you want to achieve.
If you're struggling with your health, talk to the person who is always well. Don't take advice from the person who is always sick.
Interestingly it's the things we don't seem to worry or focus on that come really easily. The things we try and figure out and solve are the things that seem to take time to fix. Or persist.
I can see why Abraham said that the best way to move through things is to meditate. To let everything go. Because you then enter a state of non-resistance to receiving everything you really want.
The only person who stops you getting what you really want is you. Because of the focus on it. Ironically :)
So similarly, if you want to be happy, stop talking to people that spread fear and terror and doubt.
Would you rather be happy or right? I think I'd rather be wrong about something for 15 years and happy for that time.
And an interesting add-on, is what if whatever you focus on, you're right anyway?
There is a golden thread that runs through every religion in the world.
Each is building their own world. We both build from within and we attract from without. Thought is the force with which we build, for thoughts are forces. Like builds like and like attracts like. In the degree that thought is spiritualized does it become more subtle and powerful in its workings. This spiritualizing is in accordance with law and is within the power of all.
Everything is first worked out in the unseen before it is manifested in the seen, in the ideal before it is realized in the real, in the spiritual before it shows forth in the material. The realm of the unseen is the realm of cause. The realm of the seen is the realm of effect. The nature of effect is always determined and conditioned by the nature of its cause.
The optimist is right. The pessimist is right. The one differs from the other as the light from the dark. Yet both are right. Each is right from his own particular point of you, and this point of view is the determining factor in the life of each. It determines as to whether it is a life of power or impotence, of peace or pain, of success or of failure.
Ralph Waldo Trine